To keep

To keep or not to keep: is this the problem? Leggi in italiano One year has passed since we put my mom in a nursing home. Our lives have changed for the better. My brother can now sleep well at night, knowing that if anything happens to her, she will be immediately assisted. He does…

Missing them

Leggi in italiano As I have repeatedly explained, I did not feel a complete connection to Jakarta until I decided to win my fear and drive my car to move around. Since I came back from my summer holidays, I am using it more and more. Driving in an unfamiliar place, with traffic rules that…

Winning

Leggi in italiano A couple of weeks ago, my husband and I spent a week-end in an exclusive resort in Bali, a place we would have never set foot in, had we not won the stay at a Latin dancing party. I still remember the thrill when they started the lottery and called my number:…

We are this kind of parents

Leggi in italiano Through my career as a parent, I have occasionally heard that me and my husband are too protective, too closely linked to our children, always pending on them. That we have devoted too much time to them, have put their needs before ours, and even that we have always given them too…

A son’s ode to his mother

Leggi in italiano When Mattia sent me what he had written in response to my “Ode to my sons”, and told me I could do what I wanted with it, I thought long and hard whether to publish it on this blog. Many of the things Mattia tells me are part of the intimate and…

Mothers

Leggi in italiano Today it’s Mother’s Day in many countries, and I want to take a moment to salute all mothers who have lost their children. I have come in contact with a few during my life, including my own mother who lost her daughter to a cancer. I obviously cannot speak for them, and…

On motherhood, again

Leggi in italiano I had written most of this post a while ago, actually on the day my eldest son turned 24, but I did not publish it because I am very much afraid of aggressive comments, and I know the content of this post could provoke heated reactions. Yesterday, though, I saw the umpteenth…

Mi sa che sei una donna davvero speciale

Qualche sera fa, una persona a cui sono profondamente legata mi ha dato un libro importante, che ho divorato in un giorno. Un giorno pieno di sofferenza per me, che grazie a questo libro si è ridimensionata e amalgamata. Non solo perchè la tragedia da cui scaturisce il racconto è talmente grande, ma talmente dolorosamente…

Perdere un genitore

Non voglio davvero essere polemica, specialmente quando si tratta di argomenti così delicati come la morte di un genitore, ma recentemente ho letto un post (in inglese) che titola “10 things that changed me after the death of a parent” (10 cose che mi hanno cambiata dopo la morte di un genitore), e non posso…